In the first episode of "Fill My Cup," Kim Nash, owner of THriv, emphasizes the importance of self-care and being mindful of how we influence others in daily interactions.
Fill My Cup: Episode 1
In the inaugural episode of "Fill My Cup," featuring motivational speaker Kim Nash, the focus is on the vital concept of self-care and its far-reaching impact on our interactions and leadership abilities. Kim introduces the core motive behind her new vlog - underlining how we daily pour our energies into various aspects of our lives, including family, work, and community.
Kim highlights the detrimental consequences of neglecting our own well-being, which can lead to irritability and negative behavior toward others. She encourages viewers to become more conscious of the influence they have on those they encounter and reflects on opportunities to enhance those interactions, whether through simple acts of kindness or positive communication.
Kim underscores the notion that leadership is about influence, irrespective of one's title or position. She challenges viewers to commit to being positive influencers in their daily lives and offers three key points:
Increase awareness of the impact one has on others
Be vigilant about the warning signs of personal depletion
Develop strategies for recharging and refueling
The episode sets the stage for future discussions on practical methods for self-care and personal growth to ensure individuals can continually fill their cups, leading to more positive and influential interactions with those around them.
Fill My Cup Transcript
Kim Nash (00:10):
Welcome. I am so excited that you joined me for the first fill my cup vlog. Today we are filling our cup at EVO 206 in Elizabethtown, Pennsylvania. I am anxious to share with you the motive behind Fill My Cup. Each one of us spend time each day pouring out into others, whether it's our family, our spouse, our partners, our children, our grandchildren, our parents, extended family. We have friends, we have coworkers, we have bosses, we have people in the community. There's so many people that we pour into each and every day. Eventually, as we continue to pour out, we get depleted pouring into others, and that can result into negative consequences. Have you ever been depleted?
(00:59)
Um, when we get depleted, it affects all of us differently, and it's important that we recognize those signs when we begin to feel completed so that we can take action. So think about this. When your camera, your tablet, your phone, all of those things get low, you get a warning sign that says low battery 20%, and you know that you need to plug that in, or it's gonna go, you're just not gonna be able to use it. Or when you're driving and you're going along and all of a sudden the light comes on in your car and it says low fuel, you know that you need to get to a gas station immediately or you're gonna be stuck alongside the road and having to call someone to come and help you fill up your tank. So the same thing happens with us. We have those warning signs and we want to be, um, we want to be aware of what those warning signs are so that before we get fully depleted, that we can actually do something about it.
(02:03)
And so if I'm truly transparent here, I will tell you that when I start getting depleted and I'm not refilling or I'm not recharging, what happens is I get irritable and I may start, um, taking it out on others. I may snap all of those things. So it's important that we're in tune to our body that tell us when it is time to refill. The purpose of this blog is called Fill My Cup, and it's to help us look at practical ways that we can refill to be able to pour into others. In each episode, I will share ways in which we can refill. We need to refill so we can pour good into others. You've heard the saying, garbage in, garbage out. And if we don't refill with good things, we're not gonna be able to pour good things into others. So in this first episode, I want to encourage you to think about who you pour into. Who do you influence?
(03:12)
For most of us, our initial thought is, I don't have a position where I influence anybody, but you know what that could be. That's the furthest thing from the truth. We have countless opportunities every day to pour into people. So I'm gonna give you some examples. So let's think about this, just acknowledging others that you come into contact with. It could be at the bank, it could be at the grocery store, it could be at a retail store. You walk in, you hold the door for someone, you say hi to them, you ask, tell them to have a nice day. I think one of the most awkward places to be with people is in an elevator. We all get into that elevator and we all stand there, and we just look up at the floors and wait for our floor number to pop up. And then we walk out and we don't turn around and look at people.
(03:59)
But in that elevator, as people are coming on and going off and just saying, hi, have a nice day. That can be so meaningful and it can have, uh, so many influences say just being kind to people, whether it's in person, whether you're on the phone, uh, you are emailing someone or you're texting someone, just saying a kind word can be a way that we influence people. I think of people in customer service positions where usually when they get phone calls it's because people are angry. But what can you do to make that person's day better?
(04:43)
So what can you do to make that person's day better? That person's dealing with angry people all day and just saying a kind word to them can go a long way. Thank you for doing your job. I recognize this. You didn't cause this problem. I appreciate you doing whatever you can to help me. One time my husband and I were traveling and it was about 10:30 at night, and we needed to take a break to use the bathroom. And I remember walking into the convenience store and, um, going into the restroom, and there was a lady in there, it's 10:30 on a Saturday night, and there's a lady in there cleaning the restroom. And I thought, wow, this is just amazing to me. And so I said something to her. I said, thank you so much for being here to clean this restroom so that while I'm traveling, I have a nice place to go.
(05:35)
And I don't think she gets many compliments like that. And I I'm sure that that was very encouraging to her. Also, just the tone of your emails and, uh, how you say words, um, means a lot to people. Make sure that you compliment others. We're we're, it's easy for us to to demonstrate the negative or to accentuate the negative. But when a, when you have a positive experience, how many times do you tell people about that positive experience at work, regardless of your position, you have influence. You have influence over your co customers. You have influence over your coworkers, you have influence over vendors, you have influence over your bosses. Set a positive example. Maybe the culture of your organization or your environment is not the greatest, but it's amazing how one person's attitude or their demeanor can actually have an influence over other individuals in that organization.
(06:32)
Community. Many of you probably volunteer and you make such an impact on the lives of people that are affected by that organization in which you're volunteering. Just being there and showing up that and showing that you care and using your talents and what you're passionate about can have such an impact on people. And then we get to home, and I don't know about you, but for me, I'm very good at pouring out to people outside of my home. But when it comes to my home, that's where my true self shows up. And sometimes for my loved ones, when I'm depleted, they get, they get the end result of that and it rears its ugly head. And this is where we can break the cycles of those bad behaviors. And how can we be a positive influence to our loved ones. So thinking about, thinking about that, being aware of it.
(07:26)
So when we start thinking about all the places and the people that we come into contact with daily, we realize we have an opportunity to influence so many people beyond what we can imagine. During the course of this blog, I have used the word influence because when we are influencing others positively or negatively, we are demonstrating leadership. Leadership is about influence. Leadership is not about a position. It's about influencing others. You don't need to have a title to be an influencer. You are an influencer because you have the opportunity to influence people every day. When I'm depleted, I may not be a positive influence, but to be that positive influence, I need to make sure I'm not depleted. I'm fully charged, and I am refueled. I hope you will commit to being a positive influencer with me. I have three challenges for you to focus on over the next few days and weeks. First, become aware of the influence you have on others and how many people you actually come into contact with every day.
(09:00)
Become aware of the influences you have on others and how many people you come into contact with every day. How many missed opportunities were there? I encourage you to reflect on those encounters. Were they positive or negative when you've, when you've been around others. And think about, what could I do better next time? And be aware of your presence.
(09:26)
No doubt it can be overwhelming to pour into others and to deplete. You recognize what are those warning signs when you're becoming depleted or you are depleted? Do you recognize them? Do you ignore them? Just like do you ignore the light on your dashboard when it says to refuel, oh, I think I can make it. I think I can make it. Or when your battery low, low battery flashes up, do you say, oh, I'm just gonna keep plugging through. Do you take action to recharge and refuel, plugging in refilling? And then third, what do you do when you become depleted? How do you recharge? How do you refuel? In our next episode, we are gonna begin to identify methods that will engage us to refueling and refilling our cups. So again, the three challenges that I have for you is, one, be aware of the people around you and the influence that you have and how you impacted them. Was it positive? Was it negative? What can you do better? How can you be more aware of the people around you? Second, when it is overwhelming and you feel depleted, recognize those warning signs. Hey, my low field light on my low battery light is on. I need to do something and stop and take care of that. And third, what is that that you're going to do to recharge and refill what gets you excited?
(10:59)
Our intent is to fill our cup at different locations for each episode. If you have a favorite spot that you would like to welcome a free shout out, let me know. So thank you for joining us today at EVO 206 as we embarked on our first episode of Fill My Cup. Until our next time, please take care of yourself and keep filling your cup.
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